Politely avoid/decline handshake due to arthritis and maintaining privacy regarding a medical condition












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I "know someone" who has arthritis and because they are young most people never think of it when approaching her/him with a handshake. Sometimes a gentle squeeze is enough to bring tears. This person is also private about their medical condition, but shouldn't be subject to pain or that awkward discomfort after declining a handshake from someone. Especially in a professional setting. Anyone have suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?










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    I "know someone" who has arthritis and because they are young most people never think of it when approaching her/him with a handshake. Sometimes a gentle squeeze is enough to bring tears. This person is also private about their medical condition, but shouldn't be subject to pain or that awkward discomfort after declining a handshake from someone. Especially in a professional setting. Anyone have suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?










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      I "know someone" who has arthritis and because they are young most people never think of it when approaching her/him with a handshake. Sometimes a gentle squeeze is enough to bring tears. This person is also private about their medical condition, but shouldn't be subject to pain or that awkward discomfort after declining a handshake from someone. Especially in a professional setting. Anyone have suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?










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      I "know someone" who has arthritis and because they are young most people never think of it when approaching her/him with a handshake. Sometimes a gentle squeeze is enough to bring tears. This person is also private about their medical condition, but shouldn't be subject to pain or that awkward discomfort after declining a handshake from someone. Especially in a professional setting. Anyone have suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?







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          There is nothing offensive about declining a handshake because of a medical condition. Just politely decline saying you have a sore hand if you don't want to go into nitty gritty details.






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            Wear a finger guard or wrist guard. When people come to shake hands, show the guard/bandage and say you hurt it while "insert random excuse here: ranging from household errands to playing sports"






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              I'm going through this myself and straight up say that I can't shake hands because it's sore. If asked I don't mind saying it's because it's a form of arthritis. There's more of us out there than you might think - I actually work with a couple of people in the same boat.



              If he's not already done so, he should see a rheumatologist as there's some great medication out there.






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              • Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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              There is nothing offensive about declining a handshake because of a medical condition. Just politely decline saying you have a sore hand if you don't want to go into nitty gritty details.






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                suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?




                There is nothing offensive about declining a handshake because of a medical condition. Just politely decline saying you have a sore hand if you don't want to go into nitty gritty details.






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                  suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?




                  There is nothing offensive about declining a handshake because of a medical condition. Just politely decline saying you have a sore hand if you don't want to go into nitty gritty details.






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                  suggestions on how to do this is a less offensive manner?




                  There is nothing offensive about declining a handshake because of a medical condition. Just politely decline saying you have a sore hand if you don't want to go into nitty gritty details.







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                      Wear a finger guard or wrist guard. When people come to shake hands, show the guard/bandage and say you hurt it while "insert random excuse here: ranging from household errands to playing sports"






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                          Wear a finger guard or wrist guard. When people come to shake hands, show the guard/bandage and say you hurt it while "insert random excuse here: ranging from household errands to playing sports"






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                          Wear a finger guard or wrist guard. When people come to shake hands, show the guard/bandage and say you hurt it while "insert random excuse here: ranging from household errands to playing sports"







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                              I'm going through this myself and straight up say that I can't shake hands because it's sore. If asked I don't mind saying it's because it's a form of arthritis. There's more of us out there than you might think - I actually work with a couple of people in the same boat.



                              If he's not already done so, he should see a rheumatologist as there's some great medication out there.






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                              • Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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                              I'm going through this myself and straight up say that I can't shake hands because it's sore. If asked I don't mind saying it's because it's a form of arthritis. There's more of us out there than you might think - I actually work with a couple of people in the same boat.



                              If he's not already done so, he should see a rheumatologist as there's some great medication out there.






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                              • Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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                              I'm going through this myself and straight up say that I can't shake hands because it's sore. If asked I don't mind saying it's because it's a form of arthritis. There's more of us out there than you might think - I actually work with a couple of people in the same boat.



                              If he's not already done so, he should see a rheumatologist as there's some great medication out there.






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                              I'm going through this myself and straight up say that I can't shake hands because it's sore. If asked I don't mind saying it's because it's a form of arthritis. There's more of us out there than you might think - I actually work with a couple of people in the same boat.



                              If he's not already done so, he should see a rheumatologist as there's some great medication out there.







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                              • Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

                                – Solar Mike
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                              • Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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                              Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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                              Some offer their other hand at the same time, to satisfy "custom" make others feel "welcome" or comfortable...

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